Want Change? - Empower Your Erection
Do you worry about your sexual performance, or sometimes can't get or sustain an erection...
and you just want to get back to the way things were?
Hi, my name is Abi O’Donovan,
For over 7 years, as a professional Tantra Massage practitioner I worked intimately with hundreds of men who did.
More than anything, they longed to get back to being able to count on their erection to not let them down when it mattered. To please their partner, and feel confident as a man.
During those years, I saw how so many men have no idea how what happens in the rest of their lives can affect their sexual performance.
Nor the impact of the stress-related, energetic, emotional and spiritual contributing factors.
Today, I offer a 6 or 10 session, one-to-one, completely confidential, Clinical EFT / Divine Ground Tantraᵀᴹ coaching package to men who want change in their lives.
Investment
6 Sessions - €850
10 Sessions - €1200
Please check out the full details below and "Who Is This For?" before applying for this package, thank you!
A man's take on what's happening is often, "I have a sexual dysfunction". Or, "I think it must be my age".
He may be frustrated at having tried pills, potions, Tantra massage, techniques and devices, to no avail. Most of which only strengthened his belief that there must be something wrong with him.
This "Want Change? - Empower Your Erection" Package is for a man whose doctor can find no reason for his problem, and who's open to exploring what in the non-physical part of him could be contributing to what he's experiencing physically.
The '"software" which affects the output of the "hardware", includes thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, state of consciousness, unrealistic expectations of self, internal conflict, fear he won't be able to last or please his partner, level of energy, level of stress, past trauma, over-excitement, memories of past embarrassing/humiliating/disappointing experiences, including those buried in the subconscious mind that he has no awareness of.
Now you may be wondering, "How could any of this "software" stuff have any real effect on what I'm struggling with?"
Here's How...
Below are a few short stories typical of those I've heard from clients over the years. These illustrate in real terms how a man may be completely unconscious of the huge influence stress and other energetic, emotional and spiritual factors may have on his sexual performance.
Stressed, & Nothing He Does Is Ever Enough
John says he has a problem with erectile dysfunction. He hates his stressful job and hasn't had a pay rise in years. A few months ago he got passed over for promotion again. Then one of his colleagues left and wasn't replaced. Now there's even more expected of him at work. He feels totally underappreciated and taken advantage of. Yet he doesn't feel he has the energy to make a big life change like finding another job at this stage. Weekends are never long enough as he runs around trying to make everyone in his life happy, yet feels like no matter what he does, it’s never enough.
Hobbies, rest and downtime, aren't just words missing from his vocabulary, but activities missing from his life. His stress has become so normalized now that he doesn't realize the toll it's taking on him day in and day out.
Feeling Overwhelmed After A Financial Loss
Aidan sometimes has a problem with getting an erection. It began around the time he got the news that he lost a lot of money on a financial investment he made. He hadn’t told his wife that he was making this investment, as he knew she wouldn’t approve. Now at times he feels overwhelmed with fear, guilt and shame. He is terrified of his wife finding out, and the consequences of this.
Guilt After An Affair
Joe described his second wife as being the woman he'd been looking for his whole life. So a few months into the marriage he couldn't understand why his libido had dropped off a cliff, and in his words, he just couldn't perform. He was distraught, fearing his much younger wife would call it a day if things didn't improve...and soon.
His first marriage had broken up some years previously, after he was discovered to be having an affair. He felt so much guilt at causing the break-up of his family. Now, without realizing it, he was carrying the guilt and the belief that he didn't deserve another chance into his second marriage.
A Humiliation He Never Got Over
Trevor went to Spain with his buddies over 10 years ago. There he met a girl and brought her back to their apartment. With the combination of too much sun and alcohol, he couldn’t rise to the occasion. Furious, the girl got up, left the room, stormed through the sitting room where his mates were sitting, shouting “He can’t get it up, he’s fucking useless”. The lads cracked up laughing, and the rest of his holiday was a nightmare with their cruel teasing. Ever since, he’s always found himself awkward with women, lacking in confidence, and every time he gets close to a woman he leaves before it gets intimate.
We live in a society that promotes the false idea that even if a man's life is full of stress, or he's in a situation he (even subconsciously) experiences as stressful, or potentially embarrassing or humiliating, he should still expect to perform sexually.
While there seems little awareness that a "sexual dysfunction" (that a doctor can find no reason for), may have subconscious contributing factors, such as...
Below the level of conscious awareness, any of these can lead to...
The Stress Response
It's very easy to become habituated to a stress response in lovemaking, with its inevitable early ejaculation and/or loss of erection.
A man may have experienced this for most of his life.
Or, he may have had the experience of not being able to last, or losing his erection once, which plays on his mind. So before the next time, he worries about his performance and is nervous it will happen again.
This can create a disempowering dialogue between his mind and genitals.
This nervousness and a spiral of negative thoughts triggers a sympathetic nervous system (SNS) fight or flight response which ensures it does happen again!
In this, before or during lovemaking his body floods with stress hormones. He may breathe faster and more shallowly, feel his heart beat faster, and the muscles in his body get more tense and tight.
His thoughts may begin to race, even push him into feeling a degree of panic. Especially if he can't get, or feels he's losing his erection. Or he quickly reaches that point where he knows he's going to ejaculate too soon, and knows there's nothing he can do about it.
The activation of the SNS fight or flight mode stimulates ejaculation and inhibits erections.
Stuck in this loop, he finds himself going down the same dead end every time he gets intimate with a woman.
After only a few occurrences of this, he may convince himself he has a sexual dysfunction even though his doctor can find no reason why.
How Can Clinical EFT & Divine Ground Tantra Coaching Help?
Clinical EFT helps by calming the amygdala, the stress centre in the brain. By helping to regulate the fight, flight or freeze response. It works to reduce or dissolve the energetic disturbance arising from the specific energetic, emotional and spiritual contributing factors (the software), unique to the individual. Those factors which can generate a stress response that leads a man and his partner to experience their bedroom as a black box of disappointment, rather than the place of erotic delight and intimacy that it could be.
So many men have no idea of what may be keeping them stuck at a subconscious level. What makes EFT so effective is that it works with both the conscious and subconscious factors.
Divine Ground Tantra coaching can help a man to feel more IN his body during lovemaking, and to be way more present to his partner, which is what so many women crave. Being present is the first step towards moving into a state of relaxed arousal, which is the key to an enjoyable, if not transcendent, sexual experience.
Want Change? - Empower Your Erection Package
All sessions are one-to-one and completely confidential.
A Laying The Foundation Session - 45 mins.
This session includes...
5 or 9 Clinical EFT & Divine Ground Tantra Coaching Sessions - 75 mins. each
The time frame of 6 or 10 weeks encourages a focus on the specific goals you wish to achieve. For some clients, one package of sessions may be quite sufficient. For others, especially those who have a long-standing, or more complex issue, 6 or 10 sessions enables us to work towards creating measurable progress in reasonable time.
Note: As with any coaching process, this is a collaborative process. As such, you will need to commit at least 15 minutes a day, every day, for your own work between sessions.
Disclaimer: As a Sexual Spiritual Integration coach, I do not provide any medical, psychological, or any other licensed health care advice, option, or service and do not diagnose, treat, or cure any disease, condition, or other physical or mental ailment, including male sexual dysfunction.
So Who Is This For?
If you think this offer may be a good fit for you, I look forward to exploring this with you.
Kind regards,
Abi O'Donovan
P.S. If you'd like a better sense of what it's actually like to work with me, I invite you to click below to read the full case study of my work with a client on an earlier version of my Last Longer In Bed program.