Whilst attending an event recently, a young woman walked into the room. Wearing a short red dress and high heels. She'd a stunning figure, and an energy field that extended way beyond her physical body. A 21st Century Aphrodite, the epitome of feminine grace, power and sexual allure.
Her presence commanded attention and I wasn't the only one to notice her. As I gazed, captivated by this woman, I gasped as a sudden realisation hit me "Oh my God, she reminds me of me!"
The next day, I reminded myself that the masters live in the world of transformation, not the illusion of gain and loss. So grabbing a flip chart sheet and a marker, I wrote this question across the top of the page "What form is my power in now?"
Words began tumbling onto the page. As they did, the need for a second heading became clear, which was "What do I now have power to?"
I decided to keep this sheet open, feeling sure there was more to add to it. Indeed, the next couple of days saw me return to it again and again. Until it read...
New perspective, maturity, experience, wisdom, age, foresight, vision, clarity, dignity, spiritual connection, intuition, excellent health, groundedness, peace of mind, empathy, insight, self-trust, courage, compassion, clear and healthy boundaries, self-love, greater self-esteem.
And under the heading 'power to...'
Touch with presence, create, encourage, affirm, not betray myself, surrender my chattering mind to greater mind, exercise Radical Forgiveness, see the bigger picture, let go, communicate clearly, love, be present, cut through crap, challenge lies, falsehoods, conditioning and myths. Flow with life, inspire, inform, be vulnerable when appropriate, be truly intimate, question, back myself up completely, walk away when I need to, enjoy food without counting calories.
Because as we turn a corner into a new decade, there's momentum for looking forward. The turn of a year is a time when one chapter in the book of life comes to an end as another begins. At the turn of a decade, a volume.
I often ask a man some version of "What would you like to get from working with me?" And many times the response begins with the phrase "I want to get back to..."
Yet the river of life flows in one direction, becoming more powerful with each turn. It never goes back to being a stream. To being less than it has become.
The point of power is in this present moment, and it's possible to develop and enjoy new forms of power at any time.
But how can you feel, or be, in charge of your own life if you don't own and acknowledge the form your power is in now?
Because power is central to the experience of being human.
Evolution likewise. Yet we pay lip service, if that, to this truth.
In a culture that fears aging, we're not encouraged to recognise new forms of power as we evolve.
Yet it's essential to do so because power doesn't exist in yesterday. Yesterday ended last night. Today is a new day, a new year, a new beginning.
It's vital that you own and acknowledge the form your power is in today.
Because what will crush your confidence is believing...
Who looks at a mature oak and sees more majesty in a sapling?
At a magnificent swan and sees more grace in a duckling?
Or at a richly-fragranced mature rose and sees deeper richness in a bud?
Yes, there's another reason why I'm sharing this with you now. It's to encourage you to do this exercise for yourself and revel in what it will reveal to you.
It's a real confidence booster; fun, enlightening and empowering.
Once you start, repeat the question to yourself "What form is my power in now?" You're likely to find words jumping onto the page. As truth that's long awaited discovery is set free.
Now if you fear you'll be staring at a blank sheet, here's a few questions to help you kick-start the process...
Look for forms of power that may be so familiar to you that you could easily overlook them. The possibility is that there's much others see as powerful about you that you don't recognise.
As I was writing this post I spotted a couple of glaring omissions to my own list. Items that belong to the ‘power to’ category.
The first is, power to do the work I do today. Because 10, 20 years ago I was busy having fun and obsessed with my own healing journey. I wouldn't have had the maturity to do so then.
Although during this time I was gathering invaluable life experience. Which would create a desire in me to do so and one day enable me to.
The second is, power to hold a safe space. Something it takes time to mature into.
There's a timing for everything. Sometimes the hard part is to trust that.
This could be the most important question to ask yourself today.
Because when you own and acknowledge that, you'll set yourself up for a fabulous year and decade.
And your confidence will go through the roof!
Blessings and best wishes for a fabulous decade,