Do you ever think,
“My erection isn’t as strong as it used to be.”
“How can I get back to the way things used to be?”
“I guess it’s because of my age. I have to accept it’s part of getting older.”
Do You Ever Fear Your Erection Will Let You Down?
Do you crave intimacy yet withdraw from physical contact with your partner?
Do you avoid getting into a new relationship, because you fear that your erection will let you down?
Are you worried that you’ll never regain your confidence, or your erection?
You’re Not Alone
Do you think that erectile dissatisfaction or dysfunction only affects a small minority of men? Not so. In fact, one Finnish study found an overall prevalence of erectile dysfunction of 76.5% in men over 50.±
Although how often is the context of what’s referred to as ED taken into account?
Is It An Age Thing?
Some medical conditions and medications can be factors in E.D*. Outside of these, is it an age thing? Is it inevitable that it will happen to you someday if it hasn’t already? What can you do to stave it off?
Instead of being quick to accept an age induced decline, let the wisdom of nature show you another way…
This photograph above is of a shrub that’s now well over 30 years old. It ‘should’ be on its last legs. But it’s not. Far from it! It flowers for weeks every year. Abundantly and profusely. And looks strong, fresh and vibrant today.
Most at this age are nothing more than a tangled mess of twiggy dead branches. With any sparse new growth spindly and unimpressive.
So why does this one grow and flower so magnificently? Why does it throw out so many strong, turgid, fresh shoots? Some of which by midsummer were already over 3 feet long?
Because it carries no dead wood.
Dead Wood Or Live Wood?
Each year, as soon as it’s finished flowering, the old flowered wood gets cut away. To make room for the new wood, which will carry next year’s flowers.
So there’s no tangled mess to clog its growth. Nothing to stop the sun and fresh air from flowing through the entire structure.
It’s not burdened by carrying dead wood.
So even in advanced age, it can regenerate strongly.
What About You?
Are you carrying dead wood today? That you’re giving your precious life energy to? That leaves you with little energy left to produce live wood?
If your erection is lets you down on occasion, you may fear that it will get worse. But if your doctor can find no reason for it, ask yourself these questions…
“Is the wisdom of my body trying to tell me something? What is my body asking me to pay attention to?
Am I pouring my energy into dead wood in my life that I need to cut out?”
What Does Your Dead Wood Look Like?
Is it possibly…
- Attitudes and beliefs that no longer serve you.
- Feeling drained from trying so hard to please others.
- Not finding the courage to say no to things you don’t want to do (including making love at times).
- Staying in a job or life situation that you hate.
- Complaining about a situation rather than taking action on your own behalf to change it.
- A dead relationship that’s beyond resurrecting. That you’ve not yet found the courage to leave.
- Harbouring resentment.
- Ruminating on bad or painful experiences of the past.
- Nostalgia. Reminiscing on good experiences of the past.
- Self-criticism or self-recrimination.
- Believing deep down that you don’t deserve good things in your life.
- Friendships on life support, in which the only thing you now have in common is the past.
- Unexpressed anger that you’re repressing.
- Nursing old hurts or humiliations.
- Unfinished business of any description.
- Other people’s expectations of you, or their agendas for your life.
- Harmful cultural, religious or societal influences. Believing the myths and lies that go with these.
- Comparing yourself to others.
- Engaging in repetitive thought that leaves you feeling drained.
- Self mistrust.
Your Sexuality And The Rest Of Your Life
Any of the above can strangle your growth, your expression, your life. And drain you of power. How can this not affect your erection?
Your sexuality is not separate from the rest of your life. Yet one of the most insidious, damaging and destructive lies your culture supports is that it is.
You’re a whole being; body, mind, heart, soul, sex and spirit. Your sexuality is a core part of your human experience. It can be greatly influenced and shaped by what’s happening in the rest of your life.
So, Is E.D. An Age Thing?
Or is the amount of dead wood you accumulate throughout your life a factor? Is a good pruning of that now and then essential to your aliveness? To your erection?
To take a leaf out of nature’s book of wisdom, draw up your own list of what’s dead wood in your life. The more specific you can get, the better. Then start cutting it out, one twig, one branch at a time.
Freeing Yourself Up
Sexual energy, your life-force energy, fuels your erection. When you free up your energy you may delight in the discovery that you’re in charge of what you give energy to every day. Knowing you can make wise choices about where best to invest yours from this point on.
And if you want help with freeing up your energy, get in touch!
*Some medical conditions and medications can be factors in E.D. If you have E.D. it is always essential to have a full medical check-up with your doctor, even if this is something you only experience now and then, because E.D. can be the first warning sign of a life threatening medical condition.
All of us have dead wood. No is a word we don’t use enough. Liberated from dead wood we can live again. Excellent article and really applies to our country. Guilt and shame were drilled into us by ignorant “educators”.
And passed down from generation to generation. How much of the dead wood we carry is our own? How much have we taken on to carry, that was never ours to begin with?
What you are saying about Sexuality is very true and few people understood that till you pointed that out including me .I believe you have a great understanding of life and all its intensity and I appreciate your advice Thank you so much
Many thanks for your comment Anthony, I appreciate it, Abi x