Hi, my name is Abi O’Donovan and I’m the creator of Divine Ground Tantra and The Sacred Whore Workshop (2003). I love to travel, create, learn, and to spend time in nature and by the sea. I’m also a petrol head and love fast cars, especially red BMWs. I enjoy stimulating conversation, good food (when someone else is cooking!), and red wine that lingers like good loving.
I have an insatiable curiousity and a passion for living, loving and experiencing. I have always questioned much of what I was taught. It’s been my saving grace.
If you’re anything like me you’ve probably asked many questions during the course of your life about love, life, death, God, sex, spirituality, and received answers that just didn’t sit right with you.
Why Is There Such A Split Between Sex And Spirit?
I’ve long mused over such questions as “Why is there such a split between sex and spirit? Why if the body is sacred is it also something to be ashamed of and hidden? How can early shame, guilt and fear programming have such a devastating effect on people and relationships even decades later? Is there a more authentic and fulfilling way to have relationships than in the one-on-one heterosexual monogamous model which is promoted as the norm in our culture? Why is pleasure so feared and controlled?”
For most of my life I’ve been on a quest to answer these questions experientially for myself. There came a point many years ago when I set out consciously to embrace all the pleasure, joy, love, bliss and ecstasy that a life-denying, pain-glorifying, shaming and stultifying culture had encouraged me to reject; to reject for my own good of course!
Confronting Fear, Guilt And Shame
Confronting the fear, guilt and shame arising from my traditional Catholic upbringing, I’ve spent the last 25 years on a voyage of discovery, experimentation, playfulness and integration. I’m passionate about the integration of sex and spirit, the personal empowerment and transformation it brings. My work today focuses on the power of breath, sensual pleasure and touch to awaken consciousness, deeply heal and profoundly transform.
Exploring Diverse Life And Lovestyles
I’ve traversed the paths of marriage, monogamy, polyamory, celibacy, secret relationships and explored alternative and diverse life and lovestyles. I’ve known the height of ecstasy and the depth of despair. I learned through direct experience what I could never have learned in any other way. Truth born of deep personal experience has a powerful luminosity that lights the way out of bondage to the lie that one is separate from the divine or ever could be.
Cosmic Orgasmic Experiences
I’ve had cosmic orgasmic experiences during which I had the felt experience in my body of being totally One with everything that existed. This state of total bliss, ecstasy and rapture was far beyond anything words could come close to describing. I now feel the life in the stones on the beach, the caress of the divine in loving touch on my body, see in the beauty of a rose a reflection of the beauty of my own soul.
The Transformative Power Of Pleasure
I’ve found that the experience of empowering, unconditionally loving, healing, sensual touch can be both blissful and profoundly transformative. It can awaken a deep awareness of the true power of surrendering through sensual touch and pleasure to the love and the presence of the divine within. Integrating sex and spirit within will give you a sense of deep peace and personal empowerment.
Now Is Your Time
There comes a time for all of us when the pain of holding onto what’s past or passing hurts so much that letting go isn’t an option, it’s essential. What does the wake-up call that you’ve been waiting for look like? Does the small still voice inside that tells you there really is more to life need to get any louder before you pay attention?
It’s no accident that you’re on this page! Now is your time to open up to joy, to bliss, to the life and love within you in a new expansive way.
Learn more here about how Abi works with men to open the channels of sacred sexual healing and expansion through pleasure with Divine Ground Tantra massage therapy.